Intimacy

Lets face it we all love a cuddle and we all love to be touched and caressed without having to actually have sex at the end of it. Women and Men like to be kissed, stroked, massaged and cuddled.

But sometimes that where it has to end. Not every time a kiss or cuddle happens do we want to play 'hide the sausage' .... for choice of better words but i went with it anyway!

I think its really important to be able to be intimate with your partner, taking your time and paying extra attention to someones body can make them feel wanted, sexy and loved! Gentle kisses on your neck or tummy, stoking their back or legs, running your fingers through their hair, gentle massages to relieve tension or even just a nice cuddle will all go towards making your partner feel special.

Some people can get turned on by some of these things and that's where they think they should have sex but sometimes prolonging the sex can actually be a good thing as it makes it more intense when you do finally do it. Try to hold off for as long as possible, try not to even have it that same night and maybe wait until the morning when you wake up so you feel all refreshed and relaxed and its more intimate and rewarding.

Ive found a website that helps show you how to set the mood for a massage and even what zones to touch and how to do it for beginners, massage isnt hard and a sexual massage shouldnt be rough heres the link...

http://www.wonderhowto.com/how-to-give-your-partner-sexy-massage-150429/

There are other links on that page that you can watch to get other tips!

Its important to get to know your partners body and their soft spots and what pressure they can handle, too soft for some people might tickle and to be honest not many people enjoy being tickled, its not sensual its bloody annoying! Both women and men can be awfully critical of their bodies so its also important that you take into consideration that although they might not like a particular area of their body it would be good for you to test out and show them that it doesn't phase you. But be careful some people really dont like their 'fault' areas touched so approach with care.

Sometimes you don't have to give a full body massage and just light stroking of the back whilst laid in bed together is a major yes! If you have never had this then you are missing out and you need to demand it when you next have the chance! Its the most relaxing feeling next to a massage, you should get them to start of lying you on your side with them spooning you. Start off by using the tips of their fingers and lightly stroke your back up and down or in circular motions. Then after a while ask them to play with your hair and gently massage your head and neck.

Honestly this is a must i cannot stress this enough! A good partner will do this for you and shouldnt have to be prompted!

If your partner is not really that way inclined and dont see the point then even just a nice cuddle can do! Being held in someones arms being made to feel safe and secure is also a really nice feeling. And for men giving the cuddle they like to feel like they are making their woman feel those things, i find it also works to make them feel appreciated by running your fingers up and down their chest whilst they hold you. Or even squeezing their arms or kissing their neck/cheeks.

Its not just women who like all of these intimate things men love them too! So ladies don't hold out if you expect it you must give it.

So start off all of you with a simple spoon.....

But remember spooning doesn't always have to lead to forking x